zerotimeoffmom

Days of my life parenting 3 young kids and dealing with the rest that comes with being a working citizen,wife,mom, pet owner and not forgeting that I'm a lady too!


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Something went wrong a long time ago…

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Today I was looking at pictures, some people I don’t see a long time, some I’ve lost contact, and I was very sad to see some of them had taken the wrong turn along their life, it bothered, saddened me =(  I’m a big suck!

I feel so sad specially when I see young people going through the wrong path, no joy, no life, no dreams and no goals ahead! Two feelings come to mind,. 1- SMACK them in the back of the head so they can wake up and see that life is wonderful even when there’s trouble! 2- Hug them so tightly, so they can see that above all troubles, someone is there for them, hug them ’till they see that life is worth living, that troubles will come, but they’ll goand that they will be ok!

Theses days it just feels weird! I don’t know; When I was young, sure! there were those days of boredom, and unhappiness in a teen/youth days, but come on! today is border lining ridiculous! What is it? Hormones? Pesticides? too many material things? egocentric  parents? HELLOOOOOOO!

THIS IS THE GENERATION OF TOMORROW? LEADERS?PARENTS? TEACHERS? 0_o  What are we doing for them?

Kids getting so involved with drugs, no limits, no education, and I’m not saying the kind of education that you get in school, I’m talking about the REAL one, the one that comes from HOME! Where are the moms? Why aren’t they teaching their little girls to grow and became responsible, respectful, educated ladies, that one day they’ll have a family of their own that will need them? Where are the father’s to teach their son that a “REAL” man has to be responsible, educated, respectful man who has to work and provide not only for themselves but for a family someday? WHERE THE HECK ARE THESE PARENTS? don’t they know that they are the foundation for these kids lives? I must have knocked my head hard on the wall, because it feels like I’m the only one bothered by this! =/  

I was raised by I single parent, and believe me single parents can do a good job just as much as anybody! So right of the bat I rule out that excuse!

I think that our society has to stop with the It’s ok, It’s normal non sense! If we don’t teach our kids when they are small, I’m sorry! they will not learn when they are old! Later is not better! Society is so used to hearing the ol’ “it’s ok”that they don’t even bother to question anymore, and look where kids find themselves now! The word NO never killed anybody! little sally will live another day without her doll!disappointments will not kill her!

Yes, circumstances happen, life sometimes just sucks more to some people…but the way I see is, you have two choices, get up, dust yourself and go on or linger on you sorry behind hoping that anybody that knows you and sees you feels sad and sorry for you! I refuse to live this way! Pity is just a word that doesn’t exist in my vocabulary!

NO! THAT’S UNACCEPTABLE! YOU WERE CREATED TO BE BETTER!

I always talk to my children on our way out, we always have to drive by a cemetery to get to the hwy, And I point out to the tum stones, and I tell them, each and every one of those represents a person, and they would do anything if they could  just to be able to have you worst day! their time is done, if they smiled great! If they didn’t, so sad they won’t have the chance anymore, let’s hope they enjoyed their life in the good days and bad days. I think that this generation of irresponsible, disrespectful, lazy people needs a wake up call!!

Sometimes I think that I’m the only old soul in this world lolss! Do I see things other people don’t see? I’m far from perfect and , yes! I have my good awesome days, and I also have my bad horrible days, but the way I see is I have the same two choices I’ve mentioned. I rather choose the 1st for the 2d choice is not going to change anything! This is not me at any moment bashing anybody. I just think that we need a change! God forbid me say that I’m better than anybody, I have 3 children and I know it’s hard, but who Am I to give up on the 3 most precious things God has given me? This is just a “breath out” moment! 

Come on let’s teach our kids to be good people! Parents we have the power to do that! Let’s teach our kids to do things for themselves, always knowing that in case they need us,  we’ll be here for them! Respect and be respected!work hard for what they want!

You sow what you plant! If you don’t like what you are hearing, change what you are screaming!

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

So, the feeling is that, if “I” feel so sad to see these kids (anybody below 25 for me are kids! lolss) I can only imagine how God’s heart might feel. 

Sometimes it’s not going to be a walk in the park to do the right thing, take the right step, but once you do it it’s going to get easier as you go! 😉

We all were created to be greater!

Read me next time! X.O

Bianca!

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Interesting…

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Is in it interesting how money can change things?
 
How personalities can be altered and values can be thrown out?
                                         
                     It just mind boggles me!  o_0
 
     I  have this idea ,that some people are just not meant to have money…get even close to having money, or smell the money! lolss! Yes! I know this is me being a bit of a judge, but please don’t get me wrong, I wish everybody could and should have a better life, but the truth is that, it’s just not meant to be for everyone.
 
     I find that people most times misunderstand the meaning of being rich, having a better life. Being rich, having a better life to me means that I have health, I have peace, my children are healthy, I have a job, my bills are paid and  nothing is in need at the end of the day. I can lay my head in my pillow and rest in peace! Sure! It would be just wonderful to have millions in a bank account, but that doesn’t make me who I am!
 
     Think about it,if money would change the way you behave…You are not meant to have it!
If money would change the way you treat others and see things…You are not meant to have it!
 
 Money exists to add to your happiness and give you more possibilities to have an easier life and help others!
 
  I see  “money” as a complimentary to someone’s happiness, and not the cause responsible for that person’s happiness!
 
     A miserable poor person is still going to be a miserable rich person, and sometimes even more miserable! Poor are those who think that if only they had money they would be happy, I truly feel very sorry for those people because in search of happiness they are just going to be deeper and deeper into loneliness and bitterness.
 
     Life is good just as it is, if it gets better awesome! (thumbs up) if not well get up earlier the other day and try, try again!!!
 
     Let’s not waste time and destroy friendships, family and dreams for money, for everything that me and you have in this earth will stay behind, all you’ll be remembered by is by the kind of person you were when alive!
 
LIVE HAPPY – LIVE POOR – LIVE RICH – LIVE LIKE THERE’S NO TOMORROW!
 
YOU WERE GRANTED 24HRS IN A DAY MAKE THE BEST OF IT!
 
“Why should fools have money in hand to buy wisdom,when they are not able to understand it?”
PROVERBS 17:16
 
Well, I’ll leave at that!
 
Bianca.
 
 

Smile.

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Smile.

Are you yourself or are you someone different to please others?
Are you a friend to be a friend, or are you what others wants you to be?

…there lies the problem.

When we turn ourselves into a complete stranger in order to make someone else happy, or we become untrue friends because if you are your true self people will not accept you. Afraid of the rejection of being yourself.
Do you love “you”?

When you are alone and think about your actions through out the day/days/past, can you say yes, I’m pleased!? (I believe we all have these days of revising all our actions) Have you thought to yourself, maybe I should’ve said I cared…or simply a smile?

How many times you thought “If I only…”
Why not today?

Love today!
Smile today!
say you care, heck!say you don’t care lolss!
Smile!

Love one another, be the friend that you want to be,even if the friendship is not responded the same, but be a friend because YOU want to be and not for what you can get in return!But just for the simple reason that you want to!
Smile always! Never leave for tomorrow to say I love,I care. Tomorrow could be just too late!
Who cares what other people may think of you, You are You! You are made perfect by the eyes of God.Can you imagine if everyone was the same…yuk! :p
You are not here to please the world, some may or may not like you, for those I say, oh well! There’s always going to be someone else, but even then, Smile!
Smile at adversities, jump over the abysm!We are all in a line-up, we all have a number tag and we don’t know when that number will be called, so enjoy you life.
Life’s beauty is made out of smiles,tears,troubles and victories,all these made you who you are! Even with all beauty and worst flaws “He” still thought you were worthy!
Do you know how many miserable bitter people are out there ( I think I meet them everyday lolss =D) simply because of a word unsaid, or a choice that was made wrong and instead of them dealing with, they just blame on others?
You are human, you make mistakes,we fall! Get off your behind! Shake off the dust and start again!

Quitting is not an option! Don’t like it change it!You got today! make the best of it!

One thing I know, that in the end of it all we are all the same! Love more, smile more! Be a friend, say Sorry,forgive!

“A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed.” Proverbs 15:13
Be your true self!

X.O.X.O always!

Bianca.

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalms 139:14.

tic toc goes the clock!

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tic toc goes the clock!

Hello….I’ve been thinking…WOw! Do I set myself for failure sometimes or what?!? I make all these plans and uncountable to do lists and God forbid someone tells me that it’s impossible to be done! My laundry is an unending basket on the basement, I swear the clothes must multiply itself when I leave the house, my house projects (I MEAN HOUSE PROJECTS that most of the time includes my husband’s help…which sometimes explains why it never gets done lolsss) are… let’s say that are so many! My pantry, hellooooo helloooooo hellooooo (eco) where’s my food? why is it that everything must disappear in two days? If there’s one thing that if I could pay somebody to do for me it would be for someone to go grocery shopping…I hate grocery stores, don’t ask me why, but it drives me insane! I know I have 24 hrs a day like everyone else, but it seems like it’s never enough and I catch myself struggling.
I once made the mistake to complain “how I could not understand” that a friend of mine that worked outside of the home didn’t have time to do all the things at home…Have you heard that saying that everything that you complain about someone else comes worst to you… I have to say that now I “must” apologize for being such an awful friend! I sooooooo understand her! lol!!
I love my job, I love my house and to make things worst I AM ADDICTED TO DIY BLOGS! (crying face =,( ) oh nooo! my children are growing Sniff! where did time go? 0_0 I need to make better use of my time.
In the end of the day I’m just glad to be able to look at my beautiful healthy children and my loving husband’s smile and see that we made through the day!!!
If you are just one more of me out there, because don’t lie to yourself, if at any moment when you were reading this blog you thought to yourself “I can relate” guess what?? Welcome to the club!You are a mom! =D

Lesson of the day: whatever was on the yesterday “to do” list, will make it to the next days list if was that important! Live today, and always give you best in everything you do! Everything else will fall into place in the right time! 😉

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. Mathew 6:34
X.O.X.O
Bianca.

Morning bliss? I would say morning miss!

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Morning bliss? I would say morning miss!

Oh boy! why is it so hard for me to get out of the house every morning? no matter how early I wake up, not matter what I do, I/we just seem to get stuck in the last minute! It’s like a soccer game that at the last minute of the last period and the last kick annnnndddd you miss! like a mule that resists to get out of the house lolsss! Sometimes I have to admit I feel like sleeping in the car to see if it moves faster, and not to complain my cell phone likes to play hide and seek, does yours do that? At the moment I just feel like throwing my arms into the air and saying screw it! and take a deep breath! I think schools should start at 10 a.m everyday and finish at 5p.m imagine that! Kids wouldn’t be grumpy, moms wouldn’t look like a car wrecks when they drop their lovely children at school awww how beautiful that would be! because I tell you if I could only take pictures of the moms at 8:30 in the morning and at 3:00 p.m you would not recognize any of them lolss…starting with me! hahahahaha specially those (like me) at 8:47 a.m (school starts 8:45) it’s just so funny! After I drop my beautiful children it’s like I get numb, my body goes through a whirlwind of emotions to calm it self down I get emotional because I looked and spoke like a crazy maniac and I just wish to make things different the next day! In all I do not complain because in a time very soon my children will grow and will need less of me and I know for sure I’m going to miss these hectic mornings, so yes, they drive me crazy sometimes and I know for sure I drive them crazy too but this is my family the one I love soooo sooo much!! Off to work I go! Hopefully tomorrow is a better beginning! =D

Have a beautiful day everyone

Bianca.

Lesson of today: MANAGE MY TIME BETTER! I have 24 hours in a day like everyone else so I must make better use of it! 😉

“This is the day that the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it!”
Psalm 118:24